Why do people get married?

What prompted me to blog about such nonsense you may ask? After watching Kabhi Alvida Naa Kehna, it suddenly triggered my memory. A few months back, I told a colleague that I’m getting married and she asked me the exact same question, point blank. Sad to say, I just stood there and stared back blankly at her.

Dun get me wrong, I’m not having cold feet about marriage or anything. I love Himself to bits. It’s just that I realized there are many in this world who loves each other but dun get married and those who get married but dun love each other. It sets me thinking. So what’s the point of marriage, really? What’s the concept behind marriage? What do people want in a marriage?

Someone to look after the husband, kids and home? Someone to wash & cook? Someone whom you can live, talk & sleep with? But what if even you two live under the same roof, due to work commitments you rarely meet each other. Is it still a proper marriage? And marriage doesn’t guarantee everlasting commitment, does it? Because, then there’s this thing call “divorce”. If one day you wake up and you realize you don’t love your spouse anymore, u can call off this whole marriage business. Or you could be one of those living up to social norms and cultural practices by getting married.

So can a person fall in love and NOT get married? Here’s what I think. At least from a very practical point of view (I’m a bit nervous at this very instance coz I reckon I’ll be stoned to death if I walk down the road after this). For the longest time ever, I thought a marriage is a burden. Not only do you have to care for yourself & your family, now there’s also the spouse, kids, in-laws et. cetera. And in this modern day & age, there’s absolutely no reason to get married. You could do everything that a married couple does without getting hitched. The only thing that’s stopping me from sliding into that path is the little faith left hanging in me. Marriage is supposed to be a binding, religious obligation by God. Something sacred. And in a way marriage legalize things. Legalized the relationship, legalize the sex and legalized the offsprings and thus the existence of a family. Marriage however doesn’t give real meaning to a relationship unless love & trust exist. To me, marriage is just a unit that comes with a unique title. Mr & Mrs.

So if some idiot comes up to me again & pose the same question, how do I answer? I dunno. I’ll prolly just reply, “Coz it’s about time”.